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Monday, May 19, 2014

Surprises are better than promises

It’s fun to get something free. More so,as a surprise.And that too w/t you even knowing who made that gesture.

Something similar happened to us on a Saturday gone by . We were dining in Jaipur and it was a beautiful sight with the outdoor seating overlooking the JLN street and candle lit tables all around. Perfect setting .

Once we were through our meal and asked for the cheque our server informed that the same was already paid.  And I was like – really?  How ?  And the sort of questions that run in your head.

For the curious creatures that we are ( both of us ) we went up to the manager and asked him what exactly happened.  He smiled and said that someone settled our bill and also left a short note for us .

‘ Someone ‘   here , we found out later was a lady not sure on who she was or her age or why in the world she would pay for our dinner .  The note was something that set us thinking . It was handwritten and read as below :

At times in this life , we often forget the small happiness that life bestows upon us each day .  Today , as I saw you two I just felt you were indeed celebrating a moment .  May be we won’t ever meet or may be we would but I thought why not make you smile a bit more and hence the gesture . It’s not about the money being paid for its all about making you think that surprises are a part of life and we must take time to cherish them . May be someday, you too will pass this on in a way you feel best.
Enjoy the evening!

I am still searching for words and by way of this post I am wanting to thank the lady whom I call as the smiling lady  . Not many think of such small steps which have such an impact .Often , we don’t realize the value and the power of these small steps  . People ,  who say the world is filled with not so nice people have actually not got a chance to meet the  real nice  ones . 

I smiled all through the way back home and then back to Delhi .  It was a thought which is still on my mind and I am sure will continue for sometime  . Would have been great if I could have met her in person and thanked her for giving us this wonderful moment .

This also relates back to the fact that often we complicate life so much that we forget that so many people who love us and care for us are no longer with us  . The simple reason to this is because of our attitude.  Remember ,  there is a limit to amount of hard work people will put in for you . You rarely find such people who go the extra mile since they genuinely care for you .  And we , for the humans we are take them for granted .   And then we are left all alone with our own self realizing what we have lost.

Not everyone gives you a second chance and not all things in life should be dependent upon chances. Life cannot be lived alone with family and friends   . It’s easier said than done but after all for the believer I am , what is yours will be yours but you need to make a genuine effort. If you really want someone in your life go all out and ensure that you give your 100% . I am sure , basis my own experiences you will get what you want and more so the best  .

-We- here is me and a dear friend . May be more than a friend .....

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Purity over impurity

Most you already know , that Jaipur is a place close to my heart . Yesterday evening when  it started to rain in Delhi , we made a plan to drive all through and head to Jaipur .

After all what are plans if they aren't spontaneous and on the spot . En route with a soothing breeze and light drizzles , I felt there is nothing more beautiful than seeing the drops fall on your hands . They are so fresh and so pure. Pristine to be precise. 

However ,  me being me , a thought that was floating for a while in my mind just came back . Do we need everything pure  ?  Everything fresh ? First right of use ?

And , I linked it back to something not so nice . Of late , in my life journey till date I have meet a decent number of people ( females and males )  who have openly shared with me that they have been in multiple relationships in the past ( and have had sex to be more specific and in some cases , early abortions as well !! ) and they have no guilt whatsoever , neither in their mind nor in their heart . 

Ask them why did they need to do this and pat comes the reply .  Everyone is mature enough to do and understand what is right and wrong . Everyone is proud of themselves and that is the way to accept them . 

Well , while people can debate , discuss and argue on this , my only thought always is - there is a timing for everything . You cannot be writing your board exams  in class 1 . Similarly even if you are 6 years old using aftershave will only lead to burning and nothing much .  Wearing heels in schools is not the right thing to do when you are an eleven year old girl.

Then why can't these things wait ? Just because you couldn't control the urge and got carried away and now its a past thing , doesn't make you the nicest of the lot. 

Ask them , if you get married tomorrow would you be open enough to make it all black and white -  be it relationships ,  be it what you did in those relationships with your future partners ? The answer that comes is - NO . 

Isn't this called as cheating ?  Being unfair ?  When you plan to spend and settle down in life with someone ( be it your own love or someone your family chooses )  isn't he / she entitled to know you ? To know what has happened and why it all happened ?  The basis of any relationship in this world is - trust . Being honest with that one person in your life . 

For me its difficult to digest . When you hug someone , kiss someone or hold hands - I am sure there is more than friendship that reflects these actions but when you give yourself to someone ( physically and emotionally ) its not just friendship , its more than that. Its your soul  which you share with someone. 

I find it weird why people ( of our generation specifically  ) want to hide everything .  It seems and feels as if - we , as people cannot say the truth .  We in-built it in such a way that even if we don't want to - it is wrapped in a lie. 

Ask these people , are you in touch with your so called - ex's ? The answer is No .  Do you know where are they? The answer is- married , married with kids or I just don't care. 

Really ? Isn't this call being as selfish . What is the world coming to these days.

And , the sad part in all of this - are those future partners who would never come to know about the pasts of their would be's  ?  No . 

Yes, the answer is - No . Remember, people who believe in God and believe very strongly are always protected . Even if you think you have made a fool of them , God will ensure that he protects these people.   I have seen live examples where - engagements have been called off , marriages cancelled ,  people moved apart and every time - the nice one out of the two remains protected. 

And I am not saying this due to my knowledge and belief in astrology .  Such people who have made and done all these things in the past , have a different pulse rate .  Whenever you ask them about relationships and what happened in those , their eyes and eye brows move in a certain way . The lips do change colors.

I know , not everyone is equipped to notice these changes and it requires a lot of practice but be rest assured and take my word -  if you are truthful and sincere , God will  make sure you stay protected always. You will come to know and then the only thing you need to do is - move out and move on.  You deserve far better people and you will get that ' one ' for you for sure.

And my message to these people -  honestly , I hate liars . Not because you did a bad karma for which you would need to pay in this birth but because you couldn't control yourself at that moment and you put at stake - your family , your values ,  your culture and most importantly your soul . 


PS - I am sure this post is way different from what I usually share but then , if I felt strongly on something , I need to voice out.  I haven't taken any names and I have tried to kept it as simple and basic as it can be so that most of us are able to relate . Don't assume anything  :) 


On a lighter side , I watched a special screening ( just for me ) by my Jaipur gang of the movie - The Lunchbox   .  I liked it. 

Not only this ,  in the week gone by - I have seen Queen ,  Revolver Rani and 2 States and I must say -  Kangana is an actor par excellence. 


To lighten your mood - listen to this song .