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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Life is Beautiful and so are YOU

Today, as the first drop of sweat came near the eye lash , I realised winters are over and summers have set in . For all those who are in Delhi , it's been a decent winter-spell .There was a time back may be a close decade ago ,  when I was in MSM that I used to love Delhi winters.

Just the entire winter attire - the tie,the shirts ,trousers,sweaters and above all the MSM Blazer . It used be a complete formal corporate look . [ which my "to-date" corporate attire lacks :( :( ] School days were fun & simply awesome.

But , not only time has changed , the "mausam"also. Be it the growing pollution , population or global warming , the winters in Delhi are simply yuk and so tough . Thank god for little mercy on us but it makes me shiver what the not-so good-to-do people do and manage .

I don't usually get time for watching or catching up on my favourite shows these days ,but,somehow whenever I switch the idiot box there are a whole bunch of idiots who are giving all kinds of gyaan . And the sad part is - they call themselves - astrologers , palmists , numerologists and feng-shui experts and all sorts of universal names.The worst - people from all across call them and within seconds get the queries resolved . I wonder how and why ? And I am sure they too think the same.

People who know me , clearly know that I am strong supporter of astrology and respect people who are really talented and trained and have just one motive in mind - to help people.Not for money . But , for the impatient lot that we are , everyone wants to know their future and at an amazing speed and time . Not possible .

Time takes it's own call . If a thing has to happen it happens . People come to such people and ask - " that if my wife tries hard she can have the baby come out an hour later or may be a day later" !! Can we try to catch the date - 12-12-12 @ 12:12:12 . Will it help ?

I can't believe this . And then you say one is educated . Belief is something , trust is something and not using your mind is something . Gosh !! I tell you.

People and folks often ask me about relationships and marriage from time to time . And I ,for the helper I am , suggests and helps them out. But then they keep on changing and revolving from one "prospective" partner to another and I keep wondering.....what do I make of it. !!

If "you" love someone , you love. If "you"hate someone you hate . What's the other side to it ?!! I don't get it . Giving chances , for things to work out is good , but them time-line is also important . If you like or love someone , just say it . May be it seems tough but then sharing a thought or a feeling is the most beautiful thing in the world.Give the other person time to revert and then positively thinks will be sweet.And if the other person does not revert , koi na , ask again...some people are just so sweet and innocent that you need to put in and go that extra mile . After all , as they say acche log milte kahan worth the effort.

But,the bottom line remains the same - Be true and have trust . Never hide.I can say this from experience . If you have trusted someone , trust completely . And I am one of  the strong supporters of this . And things will turn out to be good.

So, thanks for reading and now just pick that phone / BB / text / email / sms / call / whatsapp or drop-in for a coffee and say it from your him/her [ even if its ages since you connected ] ..2013 has just started's never too late....happens...

PS - Before closing will give you one tip from my "gyaan ka piitaaraa" -  Stop eating "sour" things [ gol-gappas / paani-purri's , pickles and the likes.... ] and see your relationships become sweet . Try and let me know  . After all , I am talented and very helpful too...

A nice song , may be you will like it too -

Sunday, March 17, 2013

This is all about the real -Bad Girl

There are two key people in this share - Vinay and Akshara .

This is what happens when time actually flees.I happen to meet Vinay - who is a distance friend and he was in Delhi for a weekend . As always , poor me is running short on time and I thought the maximum I could chat up with him will be half an hour .  So I organised a Coffee with Karan session and we met.

Never did I knew that the half an hour , initially thought session will be way over 6 hours and we will be still left with so much of talking. I am sure you must be willing to know "What" in the world did we spoke about ?!

The answer is - A Girl  -Akshara.

And I can't believe we spoke and spoke and spoke .

I did wanted to share this with my universe and get in views across the board . This is not something which is new in our system. This is not something which men these days are held responsible for .This is not about a disconnect . This is not just arrogance.This is not about tears.This is more than all this.

Vinay works with a top MNC firm in Mumbai . He , himself is top notch commerce graduate with a PG from top tier school . A girl [ I hate even to say she is a girl ] - Akshara- works in his office .

Akshara -is simply mind blowing . Let me complete before thoughts start taking off . She is full of superbia . She can say anything to anyone across and to an extent she can make people cry . Not many are her friends and since it is a corporate structure you need to be talking to people for work and hence number of poor souls are stuck up with her.

Somewhere this thing was blown up that our dear Vinay is traducing Akshara. [ My personal view - Not possible ] .

And the news reached her ears in a way it goes - layer after layer with inputs and value-add from everyone who feels to add a twist to the story. And guess what . The volcano conflagrated. Akshara took Vinay head on in his office , in front of his entire team [ top to down included ] and clapperclawed him to an extent that Vinay , Akshara and Vinay's boss had to rush to the office cafe for a discussion . This is Akshara for you people.

Just to give a heads-up - Akshara is a topper throughout in her life. Be it at her school , her college and then her B-school . She has been nothing but Number 1 . Her family is into business and she stays in Mumbai's classy arenas . She is one of the few people who are allowed to change a role every year just because she hates her boss and sometimes - the team . She hardly talks to people and when she does - you know what happens. She works till the end and rarely people have seen her talk sweetly to someone or even give a smile.

Back . So our girl - Akshara spoke and spoke in front of poor Vinay's boss till the time she was sure that nothing is left. Those fifteen minutes of her speaking are the worst minutes Vinay and his boss can ever forget of.  She abused , she had zero respect for a senior , she did not let Vinay speak and share his point and she went to an extent saying that she will report this to the internal team and make sure Vinay looses his job.

My only query is - Vinay should have spoken . Yes.He did . But when you have Akshara - you just can't . What about his boss - Well, he did . But, the girl is least interested to hear.

And she left . It's been days now . Everything is normal and smooth . Vinay is doing well as always . But still he recalls why it happened . And he has his side of story as well.

Vinay replaced Akshara in a role sometime back . Just as we have handovers Vinay never felt the need to take one from her because the entire team was so supportive that everything was smoothly and nicely executed . And if it was needed he would have spoken to her.

This pissed off Akshara. How in the world - a person - like Vinay - [ who is simple, sweet to talk to , humble and a great human being ] did not approached her . Did not requested for help or inputs . Does not say hi to her whenever they catched eye to eye.

I ask - only one thing - Why ? If I don't like a person , I don't want to talk to him / her - then why am I supposed to say hi ; why am I supposed to even look at her and why in the world will I say negative about her . And no one can force someone to talk . Or to like. Or to love.
Then why .

Well,this is exactly what Vinay thought and still thinks . That story is long over . But all Vinay at times thinks is had he been let to share his view things would have been better. But then if you have a person like Akshara  - how in the world can you make her listen , share and put your view . It's simply not possible.

Vinay is settled in life and happily married . He often takes and shares this example in his many leadership summits where people simply are amazed that people like - Akshara exist in our society . Our world.

And how one simple disconnect can ruin a person or two - from ever knowing each other . How much attitude people carry without even knowing that one day - it's all over. All of us will have to die . Nothing will stay on . Then why make enemies. Why make people cry.Why make people suffer. Why be dis-respectful .

As I say - some people never change....and hence Akshara will not get anything good from Santa this year.....


Some people are like 'Mondays' no matter what you just don't like them!!

Stay happy and spread the joy all around. Everone is busy with his/her role in their small lifetimes.Then why make things worse if you can't make them simple.

btw - I simply love Masterchef . A great and a must watch.